What do Filipinos mean by afam?

AFAM stands for 'A Foreigner Assigned in Manila,' a slang term used in the Philippines to describe foreigners, especially those in relationships with Filipinos, who are living in or closely connected to Manila.

How the meaning has changed

Originally, AFAM referred to foreign professionals—like teachers, engineers, or diplomats—temporarily based in Manila for work. Over time, the term broadened. Today, it's often used more casually and humorously to describe any foreigner in a relationship with a local, regardless of official work status.

How it's used today

The term is generally lighthearted and not meant to offend. It’s common in casual conversations among friends and signals recognition of someone from abroad who is integrating into Filipino life. While it can sometimes carry subtle curiosity about the nature of cross-cultural relationships, most often it's just a friendly label for foreigners who are part of the local social scene.